God makes it clear in the beginning of His Word that it is not good for man to be alone (Gen 2: 18). The immediate context of this statement brings about the creation of Eve, but the appearance of Eve becomes the means by which the whole human family comes into being. God has made certain that we are never alone.
Two men of different ages (John, 67, and Charlie, 22) put questions to each other about what singleness has meant to their life and what it means to them now.
Questions from an older man to younger man
John: Society has become more liberal since I was your age. What are the greatest pressures you feel in order to conform to society’s expectations of being in a relationship?
Shame is no respecter of person. Shame cares little if you develop into someone who goes on to achieve a successful career or into someone who endures a life-long struggle to hold down any form of gainful employment. Shame isn’t interested in how you present to the world; for its kingdom and dominion is within. Shame is the ever-present voice that reminds you of your ‘real’state, that of being unlovable, unworthy and inherently flawed. Shame is the voice that terrifies you into silence.
“Being single sucks!” That was the mantra I had for a long time. I’m in my early thirties with 2 brothers, 1 niece and 5 nephews. Everyone in my immediate family was happily married by the age of 22. I am the black sheep. Your thirties is that time of life when everyone seems to be getting married and you seem to be waving goodbye to them all from your dusty shelf. What do I have to look forward to?
This interview was filmed at the 2017 IFES Conference in Germany. Rob Wood, TFT's Head of Speaking and Teaching answers these questions about his own life:
Choosing celibacy over same-sex attraction is a good thing according to God's infallible word. For me personally choosing celibacy was like a bereavement. Saying "Bon voyage" to my sexual expression and identity, the hope of finding a long term partner and physical intimacy. Feeling that something I loved was being taken away from me. For a number of years I couldn't help but experience this as a major loss.