Some Ways Forward with Christ

  1. We must seek to understand and appreciate the dilemma many Christians face with their sexuality, emotionally, sexually and socially. How tempting it can be to wander off the ‘narrow road’ of following Christ to the, often seemingly fulfilling, relationships available if Scriptural truths are compromised. We must recognise the choice we all have to follow Christ and that it will be costly. We must encourage people to follow Christ because of what He has done for them at the Cross, not simply for what He may do for us in this life. “If only for this life we have hope in Christ, we are to be pitied more than all men”. (1 Corinthians 15:19)
  2. Understand the Bible says all sex outside heterosexual marriage is wrong and why it offends God. It is for theological not sociological reasons. “Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman’, for she was taken out of man.” For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:22-24). Leviticus 18:22; Matthew 19:10-12; Romans 1:24-28; 1 Corinthians 6:9-11.
  3. There may be a sexual addiction issue, which requires a similar response as with other addictions. Accountability needs to be set up, which has some power—ie the person to whom we are accountable is ‘with us’ in our temptations, which can help them lose their power and secrecy. Perhaps the best person to whom we account is the last person with whom we want to have accountability, because we know they will ask us the tough questions? “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.” (James 5:16)
  4. We must recognise the low self-worth from which homosexual desires usually originate. We therefore appreciate the way this influences our relationship to God, others and ourselves. We see the potential for this affecting our spiritual and Christian discipleship. We replace the lies our feelings have influenced with the Truth of our value to God. We repent of believing that God has created us unacceptable. We proclaim that Truth to others. “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” (Psalm 139:14)
  5. We must present a biblical understanding of hope and healing, so Christians will not feel disillusioned but will understand the truth of God’s love and forgiveness. We must encourage a greater understanding of sexuality, seeing it as much more than sex but connecting with many other feelings in our lives. For example, a man may feel a sexual attraction towards another man because he sees that man as embodying a level of masculinity that he doesn’t see in himself. We can learn to understand what our sexuality is saying to us, about ourselves, our lifestyles and relationships. We can then begin to understand what God says to us about it, through Scripture as a command for us to be holy as He is holy. Be holy because I, the LORD your God, am holy.” (Leviticus 19:2)
  6. We appreciate the value of our story and the stories of others, because God is the ‘potter’ or ‘storyteller’. We realise that ‘valuing’ does not necessarily mean condoning or saying that something is good. We accept the mystery of God’s ways and accept we will never fully understand them this side of eternity. For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the LORD. “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.(Isaiah 55:8-9)
  7. We recognise the ministry that we and others have, not despite our unique stories and situation, but because of them. We are able to experience that ministry as part of the Body of Christ. And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.(Romans 8:28)
  8. We accept that God created need for human relationships and therefore develop relationships of commitment with brothers and sisters in Christ. Relationships of love should be empowered by our sense of value to God and the security this brings. We therefore do not seek this primarily from our human relationships. We love others more completely when we know we are loved by God. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: Love your neighbour as yourself.(Matthew 22:37-39)