Can a Christian struggling with same-sex attraction live a happy and fulfilled life?
When it comes to questions of ‘happiness’ we need to ensure our views are shaped by God’s word rather than our culture. Sex is not essential for a fulfilled life. Our Saviour was single and celibate and the Apostle Paul was also single. The lie of our culture, that you need sex or a romantic relationship to be ‘happy’, is untrue. Being unmarried is also celebrated in the Bible. The FAQ ‘Can a single person be as happy as a married person?’ touches on this.
To deny ourselves and make Jesus king over our lives is the only thing that can enable us to live a truly happy and fulfilled life. Jesus teaches: “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross daily and follow me. For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will save it. What good is it for someone to gain the whole world, and yet lose or forfeit their very self?” (Luke 9:23-25). True life and fulfilment comes by obeying God’s word rather than pursuing our own desires. We need to make Jesus Lord over every area of our lives, including our sex lives.
Christians are not to focus on superficial, temporary happiness. Persecuted Christians around the world may not be experiencing what many will call ‘happiness’. For believers the promise is of joy that is not based on our earthly circumstances. The Apostle Paul commands Christians to “Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say rejoice” (Phillipians 4:4). If we are in Christ, whatever our situation may be, we have every reason to rejoice. No matter how tough it might be to say no to a same-sex relationship these “…light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all” (2 Corinthians 4:17).
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