Do I need to choose between pleasing God and supporting my gay friend?

This does not need to be about choosing between God and your friend.

When it comes to the gay issue, the simplest way to think about the church's attitude is to consider three views: 

  1. "The world thinks gay relationships are OK, so the church should too."
  2. "Being gay is a sin therefore Christians should condemn gay people."
  3. "The Bible teaches that gay relationships are sinful. However, people who identify themselves as gay are very much loved by God and should be encouraged to get to know Him better - just like anyone else."

These three views are discussed further below:

Would your church welcome a gay person?

This article was written by Stuart, TfT Assistant Director, with input from  Jim, a member of a London church, who particularly seeks to welcome those from a gay background. It was first published in the Spring 2014 newsletter.

two menMany Christians would avoid describing themselves as  ‘gay’, to avoid it being mistaken as their identity - see our FAQ:"Can I be a gay Christian?" for more discussion on this. However, I am using the term gay intentionally in this article to explore how a person who identifies as gay or lesbian might be received in a typical church. Much of this is probably relevant to how churches welcome same-sex attracted professing Christians too. For clarity, in the examples below, the gay people are not professing Christians whereas the other people are believers. This article does not address how a church might respond to professing Christians who are out of step with biblical teaching.