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Why I reject the Side A & Side B Terminology

It’s often not wise to blog about a pet peeve. In this case, however, I do believe that it is worth graciously airing my frustration. You may be wondering, ‘what on earth is Rob on about?!’ Well, I think I’d better explain. 

Are there benefits to a struggle with same-sex attraction?

It is true that “in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose” (Romans 8:28). And in the very next verse we discover one of the major benefits of any form of suffering and struggling. God’s big plan for our lives is that we “be conformed to the image of his Son” (Romans 8:29).

A brief critique of Queer Theology

This article offers a brief critique of the movement known as queer theology, by analysing two of its main distinctive features. The two distinctive features we will analyse are firstly the broadness of queer theology and its unity of purpose and secondly, its aim of blurring boundaries in the areas of sex and gender.

Can sexual orientation be changed?

Some people with same-sex attraction would like their sexual orientation to change. But is being 'straight' a godly goal? For the Christian, exchanging one set of sexual temptations for another set is not really progress towards living a life that gives glory to God. Rather, God calls every Christian to behave within the sexual boundaries set out in the Bible. And God does not promise to take away our struggles - in the Bible, Paul's experience was that God gave him the grace to endure his "thorn in the side" (2 Cor 12:8-9).

Won’t a celibate life make me miserable?

Jesus came to give us life in all its fullness (John 10:10). So, obeying his will on sex and relationships should not lead to a miserable life. We do, however, live in a very sexualised culture. A culture where the very notion of forgoing sexual relationships is considered at best strange, and at worst harmful. We must, therefore, honestly ask ourselves; when it comes to our views on sex and celibacy, are we being influenced by God’s Word, or by the prevailing view of our culture?

How can I support a Christian who experiences same-sex temptations?

God knits each of us together in a unique and individual way. Praise God, we are each ‘fearfully and wonderfully made’ by our perfect Creator! (Psalm 139:13-14). In a fallen world, this means of course that a person’s experience of same-sex temptations will be – at least to some degree – unique to them. Inevitably, then, there is no ‘one size fits all’ approach to supporting people.

Is it ok to masturbate?

The easy answer is that the Bible is silent on this issue, because the word "masturbation" itself doesn't appear. For such a subject, we must be careful of laying down burdensome rules (Col 2:16-23), but the Bible says "don't use your freedom to satisfy your sinful nature" (Gal 5:13), so we need to be deeply honest with ourselves what is driving a desire to masturbate.

 The act of masturbation usually involves one or more of the following:

"What does the Bible really teach about Homosexuality?"

This book explains the orthodox reading of the Bible on sexuality and is engaging, biblical, well-balanced and relevant to our culture.

Book review: "Homosexuality and the Christian"

This book covers a range of issues, including what God thinks of homosexuality, sexual identity and changing orientation.