For many unmarried people, church can feel like an unwelcoming experience. This article addresses some of the features of church life where singles, particularly those with enduring same-sex attractions (SSA), can feel marginalised.
“Being single sucks!” That was the mantra I had for a long time. I’m in my early thirties with 2 brothers, 1 niece and 5 nephews. Everyone in my immediate family was happily married by the age of 22. I am the black sheep. Your thirties is that time of life when everyone seems to be getting married and you seem to be waving goodbye to them all from your dusty shelf. What do I have to look forward to?
This interview was filmed at the 2017 IFES Conference in Germany. Rob Wood, TFT's Head of Speaking and Teaching answers these questions about his own life:
Andrew T Walker has written a warm and pastoral book on the issue of transgender. He starts out by setting out the context of cultural trends, gender language and where we get our authority from.
In this helpful book, Glynn Harrison firstly sets out where we are today. Then he sets out how to tell a better story that speaks into the current language and values of our society.
Many people who experience same-sex attractions are fully committed to celibacy but struggle to do life on their own. One option might be to share a home with a same-sex friend. But is this wise?
“The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom” according to Proverbs 9:10. So, the starting place needs to be my relationship with God. Because if I don’t fear the LORD, I won’t think, speak or act wisely in my day to day living and decision-making.
For some Christians facing same-sex temptations, they are strongly drawn to being married to someone of the opposite sex. This will be a wonderful thing for some to pursue but for others it will be unwise. This article seeks to share points of guidance for reflection, discussion and prayer.
Choosing celibacy over same-sex attraction is a good thing according to God's infallible word. For me personally choosing celibacy was like a bereavement. Saying "Bon voyage" to my sexual expression and identity, the hope of finding a long term partner and physical intimacy. Feeling that something I loved was being taken away from me. For a number of years I couldn't help but experience this as a major loss.
I am only too aware of the painful experiences many TFT members have endured from fellow believers because of their sexuality. TFT has done much in its 40 years to decrease stigma in the church, but we would all agree that there is further to go. Here I share some positive experiences of being included by the church, hopefully to show what can be done when we aspire to inclusion.