When people ask what my personal experience of pastoral care in the church has been like as a same-sex attracted Christian, I’m aware they might be expecting one of two things. On the one hand there is the horror story – the church that actively tells me I don’t need to live in accordance with what Christians have historically believed about sex and marriage, or maybe the church in which I’m made to feel shame for my experience of attraction.

We know from stories about King David’s life recorded for us in 1 and 2 Samuel that he had many painful experiences in his life – some arising from his own sin and some from other people’s sin.   He was definitely not writing from an ivory tower immune from the trials of this living in a fallen world.  Interestingly the verses in Psalm 23 where King David affirms his confidence that goodness and love would follow him all the days of his life come after the verses where he affirmed his confidence that God would be with him as he walked through the valley of the shadow of death.

We hope that you have enjoyed reading this edition of Ascend. We have prepared some questions to help you reflect on what you have read.

Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and staff, they comfort me.’ (Psalm 23:4 NIV, 1984)

Right from the off I want to be clear that I am not the finished article – and thank God for that! However, over the years God has shown His grace in the most wonderful and powerful ways in my life. I am now in my sixties and have had a lifetime of being same-sex attracted. For over 40 of those years, I have been a follower of Jesus. Inevitably this has led to challenges and battles with temptation. The devil doesn’t give up trying to trip me up, but most importantly neither does God give up on me. 

The LORD of Psalm 23 is a book which began as a three-part sermon series. David Gibson works through the psalm, dividing it into three natural sections, each with its own theme: 'The Sheep and the Shepherd', 'The Traveller and the Companion', and 'The Guest and the Host'. Each of the three parts of the book contains bible teaching and pastoral application - both comfort and challenge.

The Heidelberg Catechism was written in mid sixteenth century Heidelberg by two young men in their twenties at the request of a German prince.  Its purpose was for instructing young people and guiding pastors and teachers.  It was divided into 52 sections so that part of it could be taught in churches each Sunday.

I’ve always thought True Freedom Trust is a provocative title for an organisation. After all freedom is one of those things that everybody regards as positive. My childhood was shaped by images of the Berlin Wall falling amidst joyful celebrations and the hope of all that freedom would bring. And, for many, the joy of the last decades has been a greater sexual freedom, not least the freedom for those who identify as gay to marry.

“I lack nothing” - can that really be true? As a single person, it certainly sometimes feels like I lack things that married people have - connection, intimacy, someone to love and share your life with. But what if singleness doesn’t mean you have to live without these things? And what if being single means God can work through you in a unique way?