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Where's the harm in a committed same-sex relationship?

Clearly, love and commitment are virtues. So, it is tempting to see a loving, committed same-sex partnership as a godly relationship, particularly when compared against unloving or unfaithful partnerships of opposite-sex couples. However, the Bible is clear that a same-sex partnership is outside of God's creation plan, namely that a marriage be limited to the union of one man and one woman (Gen 2:21-24). The Bible lists no exceptions to this model regardless of the depth of the love, the quality of the relationship or the level of commitment.

The argument is often put forward that the early church knew nothing of loving, committed relationships other than marriages between men and women, and therefore that the Bible is silent on the issue of modern-day same-sex partnerships. However, in 1 Corinthians 5:1-2 Paul gives the example of a man in the Corinthian church who was in a sexual union with his father's wife - such a relationship is forbidden in Leviticus 18:8. There is no discussion of whether the relationship is loving and committed or not. Paul is clear to the other Christians: "Let him who has done this be removed from among you." (1 Corinthians 5:2). Paul was addressing the church in Corinth which was situated in the midst of a secular culture with all kinds of sexual practices, much like modern-day Western society.

Another argument is that the homosexuality outlawed in the Bible was all either abusive (eg between men and boys) or part of pagan rituals, and so the biblical prohibition of homosexual practice was about stopping the abuse or paganism rather than about condemning committed homosexual relationships between consenting adults. However, this fails to consider the widespread adult-adult homosexual relationships in Greek and Roman cultures in New Testament times, of which the writers would have been well aware. Corinth in New Testament times was a Roman colony on the Greek mainland, but when Paul wrote to the church there he reminded them to avoid sinful behaviours, including homosexual sex. In 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, he also lists idolatry separately from homosexual behaviour, making it clear that homosexual sex was distinct from idol worship.

Resources for further study

Please note that any external resources below are intended to complement the main answer given above and may not entirely match TFT's position.

Living in Love & Faith video

This video chapter ("Harmful Implications") explains the types of harm that are brought to fellow Christians when churches abandon the biblical teaching on sexual relationships:

Living Out article: 'What's wrong with a permanent, faithful, stable same-sex sexual relationship?'

This article (click link above) by Ed Shaw answers the question from how the Bible presents God's purpose behind sex and relationships.